Have you been Soulmate Friendzoned?

Are you in love with your soulmate but they have pushed back or become distant? We often hear from many clients that call to ask why their soulmate has become distant or why the dynamic has suddenly changed.

More times than often, because one of the soulmates is not ready, they put their soulmate into the “friends”only category.  This causing the soulmate who is ready to feel hurt, abandoned, frustrated, lost, confused, and betrayed.

There’s no way around the fact that soulmate relationships are really complex and complicated.   Soulmate connections are hard to navigate, and can often make the soulmate who is questioning themselves feel insane, or not worthy and lose self respect and self love.  

Today, we are discussing one fairly common scenario found in soulmate relationships, and this is when you are in the Soulmate Friendzone. They say love has a wide way in and a narrow way out, and, ironically, the same is true for the friendzone as well.

You may not be able to pinpoint what was exactly what took you to the friendzone, yet here you are! A witness to your soulmate’s dating life, joys and disappointments included, while they don’t seem to realize what is right in front of them. 

Of course it hurts to be in a situation in which you feel doomed to watch a parade of lovers that couldn’t be more inadequate for your soulmate, or worse, when you see how they get hurt in relationships that look highly incompatible from the outside but…

What can you do?

Well, not all is lost, but in order to make a change, there are attitudes that you can modify so that you get this situation to finally move. 

First of all, it is important to understand that soulmate relationships are not necessarily meant to end up as romantic relationships, and in fact, many don’t! Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that you have no choice but to stay in a situation that is painful for you.  It is also important to note that most soulmate connections are here to teach us lessons. 

You should enlighten yourself and become more open to recieving the lesson by tapping into a form of meditation practice, or anything to do with self help, self awareness and self development. 

Tapping into these practices and learnings will help release alot of tension and hurt that you carry with you through this experience.  And either way, whatever the outcome is, you are stronger to reconnect or move into a better path then are currently in.  

Soulmate connections are powerful

One of the main things that you need to keep in mind is that this sort of connection goes beyond others.  As well, friendship if usually quite underrated but, when you think about it, it is quite often way more reliable than a romantic relationship.

Friendships that last for a lifetime are fairly more common than romantic relationships that last for a lifetime, so don’t underestimate a soulmate relationship in the form of friendship. 

Now, taking this into account, there is still some room for movement when it comes to the friendzone. Taking someone for granted, is poison for all relationships, soulmate or not, so here’s were your power lies.

When your soulmate gets accustomed to your unconditional presence, no matter what, they may not be appreciating you enough, and in this case is when removing yourself from the equation can trigger change.  After all, if you are pursuing romance, it makes no sense to stay for something that you are not looking for, so becoming less available and make your absence felt, can trigger different feelings in your soulmate. 

A different approach

To this is becoming available in the dating pool and let your soulmate see that you are not waiting for them and that you have a romantic life of your own. Knowing that you will be always there, just in case, doesn’t really incite any sort of rush on your soulmate’s end to make a decision, and allows them to continue dating and experimenting, because you will be there at any given point. At this point in the situation, some jealousy could come in really handy!

Also, while love is something else, infatuation is a chemical reaction that can be triggered. Physical touch is your ally in this situation, though be careful to not cross the line and become overly handsy! Touch your soulmate’s forearm, make prolonged eye-contact, hug tight and take advantage of every opportunity that you have to show physical affection in a friendly way.

Activities that increase adrenaline are also incredibly powerful to release serotonine, the hormone of happiness, which triggers feelings of infatuation, so next time you meet up, it could be interesting to do something a little more daring that could be the key to get you two closer.

If none of this works, there are three different options from this point on. First, you may need to face the possibility that your soulmate relationship perhaps is not meant to become romantic, and in this case, you may want to consult an expert on the matter to help you figure it out and give you some guidance about how to move forward. 

A different option is actively working with your feelings so that they match the situation and the friendship doesn’t become frustrating. A thought that helps with this is that your feelings are your own and don’t need reciprocation.

The third one can be tough but healthy in the long way, and it is reminding that even if they are your soulmate, it doesn’t mean that you are obliged to stay in a situation that hurts you, and if the thought of staying friends with someone for whom you have romantic feelings hurts to much, you have the perfect right to remove yourself from it and move on. 

Having a romantic relationship with your soulmate doesn’t necessarily mean the ultimate emotional satisfaction, and you can have a happy romance with a different soulmate or with someone who is not your soulmate at all. 

If you would like to know more about your soulmate relationship or if you are struggling with the soulmate friend zoned category, talk to one of our love psychics today through a chat or phone psychic reading online.